Sunday, 18 August 2019

The Secret of Happiness


Happiness like beauty is indefinable.  Everybody has his or her own concept of what happiness means. What gives happiness to Tom causes unhappiness to Harry. In other words, one man’s meat is another man’s poison.
            However, it is undeniable that every human being makes all sorts of efforts to become happy.  There are also various connotations of the word happy.  Some of its equivalents are: joy, bliss, cheerfulness, gladness, delight, elation, high spirits,, enjoyment, glee, merriness, gaiety, thrill, euphoria, and gratification.
             English divine John Tillotson (1630-94) believed that man courts happiness in a thousand ways.; and the faster he follows it the swifter it flies from him. Almost everything promises happiness to us at a distance, but when we come nearer, either we fall short of it, or it falls short of our expectation; and it is hard to say which of these is the greatest disappointment. Our hopes are usually bigger than the enjoyment can satisfy; and an evil long feared, besides that it may never come, in many times more painful and troublesome than the evil itself when it comes.     
            Though there are many saints and philosophers who have expressed their  views  about finding happiness in this world of sorrows and sufferings, I would quote here  only the quintessence of the teachings of Lord Buddha who had the first hand experience of good and evil, suffering and salvation. Strangely enough what is quoted here is not about what   to do to become happy but what one should not do to become unhappy,.
            In my humble opinion, what is quoted below is the universal and eternal secret of happiness. 
            According to Lord Buddha the origin of suffering lies in lust, passion, the thirst for pleasure everywhere, sensuality, desire and selfishness. He holds hat all acts of living become bad by ten things which if avoided become good. There are three evils of the body, four of the tongue and three of the mind. The bodily evils are: murder, theft and adultery; those of the tongue are lying, slander, abuse and idle talk; and of the mind covetousness, hard and error.
            So he exhorts his followers to: 1. Kill not, but have regard for life. 2. S teal not, and do not rob; but help everybody to be master of the fruits of labour. 3. Abstain from impurity, and lead a life of chastity. 4. Lie not, be truthful. Speak the truth with discretion, fearlessly and in a loving heart. 5. Invent not evil reports, and do not repeat them. Carp not, but look for the good sides of your fellow-beings, so that you may with sincerity defend them against their enemies. 6. Swear not, but speak decently and with dignity. 7. Waste not the time with gossip, but speak to the purposed or keep silence.8. Covet not, nor envy, but rejoice at the fortunes of other people. 9. Cleanse your heart of malice and cherish no hatred, not even against your enemies. but embrace all living beings with kindness.  10. Free your mind of ignorance and be anxious to learn the truth, lest you fall a prey either to scepticism or to errors.  Scepticism will make you indifferent and errors will lead you astray, so that you shall not find the noble path that leads to life eternal. 

                                                                                                --------G. R. Kanwal