Sunday, 14 February 2021

SOME RANDOM THOUGHTS ON LOVE

 

          SOME RANDOM THOUGHTS ON LOVE

            The 3rd century Roman saint Valentine reminds us of the celebration  of love on his death anniversary that occurs on 14th February. He was born at Terni In Italy in 226 AD and was beheaded  in Rome on 14 February 269 AD. According to one story , he was executed for having refused to deny Christ by the order of Emperor Claudius, and according to  another for falling in love with the blind daughter of his jailor. An interesting fact about the time of  his execution is that before his head was cut off, he restored the sight and hearing of his lady love.

            The dictionary meaning of valentine is “someone you love”, and a saint is a person who has been  posthumously recognised as such by  the Christian church for having led a very good or holy life.

Synonyms of the word love are : affection, friendliness, adoration, warmth, tenderness, liking, fondness, intimacy, attachment.

St. Valentine is  now considered a martyr for having been clubbed to death because of loving someone.  

February 14th is celebrated as St. Valentine Day when, according to ancient tradition,  the birds choose their mates for the year.

Social and cultural history reveals that it was an old custom in England to draw lots for lovers on this day, the person being drawn being the drawer’s valentine and being given a present, sometimes of an expensive kind, but oftener of a pair of gloves . Now this tradition  is frequently represented by a greeting card of a sentimental or humorous character.

Love is a sacred word.  It is related to the holy affections of the heart and    has a fadeless spiritual colour. In this world of pain and pleasure, one does need an alter ego with whom to share one’s  thoughts and feelings. Love is a delightful companionship; the lack of it is an agonising loneliness.

A character in Morris L. West’s The Devil’s Advocate published by Dell Publishing Company,  New York, 1959 says, “ It is no new thing to be lonely. It comes to all of us sooner or later. Friends die, families die. Lovers and husbands, too. We get old, we get sick. And the last and the greatest loneliness is death…. There are no pills to cure that. No formulas to charm it away. It’s a condition of men that we cannot escape. “

Love and loneliness go together. This is undeniable. The experience of love is the spark and energy of excitement and joy; it is what makes friendship a lifetime value and what makes activity purposeful.

Here is a suggestion: Love one human being purely and warmly, and you will love all. The heat in this heaven, like the sun in its course, sees nothing, from the dewdrop to the ocean, but a mirror which it brightens and warms and fills.

Lastly an extract from the poem Dover Beach written by the English poet Mathew Arnold (1822-1888):

“Ah, love let us be  true/To one another ! for the world, which seems/To lie before us like a land of dreams,/So various, so beautiful, so new, /Hath really neither joy, nor love, nor light, /Nor certitude, nor peace, nor help for pain:/ And we are here as on a darkling plain/Swept with confused alarms of struggle and flight,/Where ignorant  armies clash by night.”

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14th February 2021                                                                        G.R.Kanwal

  

      

 

        

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