HOW TO DEAL WITH YOUR ENEMY?
An enemy is a person who hates you,
acts against you, and harms you in one way or the other. He is jealous or has
some grudge against you. Most of the enemies keep away and do not attack you
physically but they do stand in the way of your progress and prosperity. They
speak against you whenever they safely can. They also curse you and pray to God
that some misfortune should befall you.
Some synonyms of the word enemy are:
foe, opponent, adversary, antagonist, rival and contestant.
It
is better not to have enemies but in this world of rivalries it is impossible to
have all friends and no enemy.
A strange phenomenon is that a
friend today may become an enemy tomorrow. Likewise, an enemy handled wisely and
gracefully may become a friend.
Love makes friends; hatred , enemies. Revenge also promotes
enmity; whereas forgiveness terminates it or dilutes it considerably.
Our enemies or opponents are not
always wrong. Their hostility is based on some solid cause. If we diagnose
them, and remove them, they may give up their antagonism.
The French author Francois de La
Rochefoucauld (1613-1680) said: Our enemies come nearer the truth in the
opinions they form of us than we do in our opinion of ourselves.
It is also rightly said that if you
want enemies, excel others; if friends, let others excel you.
Here are some useful quotes on
dealing with enemies: (1). Control your
reactions by staying calm and professional, and disengage by avoiding or
minimizing contact with them. (2). If you know why they hate you, be mature and
apologize if it was your fault. (3). Show them respect as you show to your
friends; when they need help, help them. (4). Love your enemies, do good to them,
and lend to them without expecting to get anything back.
Finally, what the English
poet-playwright William Shakespeare (1564-1616) said: Heat not a furnace for
your foe so hot that it may singe yourself.
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G.R.Kanwal
18 September 2025
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