GRIEF

 

          GRIEF

In this world of ups and downs and lots of dualities, grief is inescapable. Light and death, joy and sorrow, loss and gain, success and failure, light and darkness, day and night, love and hatred, profit and loss, companionship and loneliness, have their eternal presence.

Some common synonyms of grief are sorrow, sadness, agony, suffering, woe, mourning, bereavement, lamentation, dejection, agony, pain and anxiety.

Loss of loved ones which results in loneliness is the main cause of grief in many homes and social circles.

There is no escape from grief for anybody in his life time. All religions regard grief as inevitable. They also call this world a place of suffering due to our present or past wrong actions. The Bible says “Blessed are those who mourn, for they shall be comforted.” Hindus believe that death is not the end of life but a transition to the next stage in soul’s journey. According to Muslims death is part of Allah’s plan.

  Grief causes emotional disturbance, physical ailments, mental distress and spiritual upheaval.

Every grief must be shared with others. Unfortunately, it makes you lonely. There is a popular saying: “ When you laugh, you laugh together; when you weep, you weep alone. “

Grief can compel you to share it with others. In a short story, a coachman tried to communicate the grief caused by his son’s death to several familiar and unfamiliar people, but all turned a deaf ear. Ultimately, it was his horse who listened to him most sympathetically.

Grief can become less painful, if you become creative. Writing, painting, singing, gardening, helping others, serving the needy selflessly, using your talents as social service can help you overcome grief.

   Meditation, too,  is one of the best ways to deal with with grief.

To conclude, almost every grief fades away with the passage of time.

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G.R.Kanwal

3^rd March 2025